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Seeing The Souls of Your Children by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Your toddler is having her second tantrum of the day while your four year old son is racing around the house with the neighbor’s child. You feel completely stressed out and are questioning your decision to have these kids, with a third on the way! [...]
Is This Love or Emotional Dependency? by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. One of my clients, whose ex-girlfriend recently broke up with him, asked me the following question: “I think I still love her, but is this love or just emotional dependency? Many times I ask myself if falling in love comes from the wounded self because [...]
The Privilege of Resolving Relationship Conflict by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. In a phone session I had with Shelly and Stan, a couple who have been together for six years, they described to me a conflict they had the day before. Stan had become irritated with Shelly and Shelly had responded to his irritation by withdrawing. [...]
Safe Relationship Spaces by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. I have been counseling individuals, couples, families and business partners for the past 35 years and have numerous published books on the subject of relationships and relationship communication. Most of the couples I work with, even those in deep trouble when starting counseling with me, resolve their difficulties [...]
Why Do People Lie? by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Amanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset. [...]
Is This the Right Person for Me? by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. “How will I know when I meet the right person?†I often hear this question in my counseling practice. The answer is fairly complex. There are two different reasons that people have for wanting to get married: 1. To get love, validation, security and [...]
Resistance to Celebrating by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Some people really love celebrations – birthdays, anniversaries, holidays – while other people seem to dislike them. Derek will tell you that he could go through life very nicely without celebrations. To Derek, celebrations are a bother, a nuisance. They are meaningless and commercialized, created by big business [...]
Resistance to Loving by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. I have counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for the last 35 years, and I am the author/co-author of eight published books on relationships and emotional healing. In the course of my work, I’ve seen thousands of people get stuck in misery, even when they knew how [...]
Rediscovering Love and Intimacy by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Wendy started counseling with me because Terence, her husband of 14 years, had just expressed to her that he wanted to end their relationship. Wendy, terrified of being alone, was panicked. Within a few minutes of speaking with her in a phone session, I understood exactly the [...]
Protecting Your Child’s Innocence by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. We love our children and we want them to be safe – safe from people who could harm them and destroy their innocence. At the same time we don’t want to scare them and perhaps create timidity or nightmares. How can we protect them without harming them? [...]